Finding a true family is the biggest quest of a person's life. This woman found it in her adoptive parents who took her in when she was a baby and did everything they thought would be the best for her. Including ways of keeping her biological mom involved in her life. Alicia Holloway is a ballerina and a former contestant on the show "Bachelor." She recently shared her adoption story on social media and one thing that her adoptive mom did for her biological mom is grabbing people's attention and touching their hearts. Holloway shared that she met her birth mom a day before she turned 18 but before that, her adoptive mom found a beautiful way to keep her biological mother more involved in her life.
Holloway's adoptive mother promised her birth mom that she would send an update on how Holloway was doing every six months. So from the moment she adopted Holloway, she sent her birth mom a picture and a note about how the daughter was doing every June and December. But there was another catch. As Holloway's biological mom had told her family that the baby was stillborn she couldn't receive updates at her own house. She asked for the pictures to be sent to her best friend's house instead. Because of this ritual, her birth mom was watching over Holloway in a indirect way as she grew up. It was a wonderful gesture as the ballerina shared that it was really difficult for her biological mother to give her up for adoption. Indeed it can be very stressful to not know how your child is doing once they have been given up for adoption. Several adoptive families don't keep in touch for multiple reasons.
As Holloway's biological mom already had three children she didn't want her family to find out about her but still wanted to be a part of her daughter's life in some way. She got that opportunity in the form of those pictures and notes every six months which would consist of either a dance picture or a school picture of the ballerina. Holloway didn't know about this until she was 18 years old and found the gesture from her adoptive mom truly heartwarming. In another video, Holloway shares how she met her birth mom for the first when she was 18 and it didn't go as she had expected it. She says that she thought she would feel a very strong connection with the birth mom but she didn't feel it. She says, "My whole life I thought when I'll meet my birth mother it will be this beautiful magical thing." She didn't feel anything when they met. She said, "It was like looking at another woman." She added that she thought she would feel a deep connection but it was actually her birth mom and adoptive mom who were crying and hugging each other.
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The adoptive mom's gesture had forged a true connection between the two women. People took to the comments to praise the adoptive mom. One Instagram user @kc_033 wrote, "Your adopted mom is one in a million. They don’t make them like her anymore." Another user @iamchanette wrote, "You were meant from the beginning of time to be with your adopted parents your biological mom was just the vessel." Alicia Holloway's story has sparked people's curiosity. The story has made people so curious that they keep asking for more details and Holloway gives those in whichever way she can. Nonetheless, it is a beautiful story of finding family, love, and kindness.
You can follow Alicia Mae Holloway's work as an actor, ballerina, and model on Instagram.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on February 2, 2024. It has since been updated.
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Why do some folks use social media but don't engage?
Psychologist says people who never comment on social media share these 5 positive traits
For over 20 years, social media has developed into a staple in many people’s day-to-day lives. Whether it’s to keep in communication with friends and family, following the thoughts of celebrities, or watching cat videos while sipping your morning coffee, there seem to be two types of social media users: commenters and lurkers.
The term “lurker” sounds equally mysterious and insidious, with some social media users writing them off as non-participants at best or voyeurs at worst. However, mindfulness expert Lachlan Brown believes these non-commenters have some very psychologically positive and healthy traits. Let’s take a look at how each one of these traits could be beneficial and see how fruitful lurking might be even though it can drive content creators crazy.
1. Cautious about vulnerability
Consciously or not, making a post online or commenting on one puts you and your words out there. It’s a statement that everyone can see, even if it’s as simple as clicking “like.” Doing so opens yourself up to judgment, with all the good, bad, and potential misinterpretation that comes with it. Non-commenters would rather not open themselves up to that.
These silent users are connected to a concept of self-protection by simply not engaging. By just scrolling past posts or just reading/watching them without commentary, they’re preventing themselves from any downsides of sharing an opinion such as rejection, misunderstanding, or embarrassment. They also have more control on how much of themselves they’re willing to reveal to the general public, and tend to be more open face-to-face or during one-on-one/one-on-few private chats or DMs. This can be seen as a healthy boundary and prevents unnecessary exposure.
Considering many comment sections, especially involving political topics, are meant to stir negative emotional responses to increase engagement, being extra mindful about where, when, and what you comment might not be a bad idea. They might not even take the engagement bait at all. Or if they see a friend of theirs post something vulnerable, they feel more motivated to engage with them personally one-on-one rather than use social media to publicly check in on them.
2. Analytical and reflective mindset
How many times have you gone onto Reddit, YouTube, or any other site and just skimmed past comments that are just different versions of “yes, and,” “no, but,” or “yes, but”? Or the ever insightful, formerly popular comment “First!” in a thread? These silent browsers lean against adding to such noise unless they have some valid and thoughtful contribution (if they bother to comment period).
These non-posters are likely wired on reflective thinking rather than their initial intuition. Not to say that all those who comment aren’t thoughtful, but many tend to react quickly and comment based on their initial feelings rather than absorbing the information, thinking it over, researching or testing their belief, and then posting it. For "lurkers," it could by their very nature to just do all of that and not post it at all, or share their thoughts and findings privately with a friend. All in all, it’s a preference of substance over speed.
3. High sense of self-awareness
Carried over from the first two listed traits, these silent social media users incorporate their concern over their vulnerability and their reflective mindset into digital self-awareness. They know what triggers responses out of them and what causes them to engage in impulsive behavior. It could be that they have engaged with a troll in the past and felt foolish. Or that they just felt sad after a post or got into an unnecessary argument that impacted them offline. By knowing themselves and seeing what’s being discussed, they choose to weigh their words carefully or just not participate at all. It’s a form of self-preservation through restraint.
4. Prefer to observe rather than perform
Some folks treat social media as information, entertainment, or a mix of both, and commenting can feel like they’re yelling at the TV, clapping alone in a movie theater when the credits roll, or yelling “That’s not true!” to a news anchor that will never hear them. But contrary to that, social media is a place where those yells, claps, and accusations can be seen and get a response. By its design, social media is considered by experts and the media as performative, regardless of whether it is positive or negative. Taking all of the previously mentioned traits into account, one can see why they would prefer to “observe the play” rather than get up on the stage of Facebook or X.
On top of that, these non-commenters could be using social media differently than those who choose to fully engage with it. Using this type of navigation, there may be nothing for them to comment about. Some commenters are even vying for this for their mental health. There are articles about how to better curate your social media feeds and manipulate algorithms to create a better social media experience to avoid unnecessary conflict or mentally tiring debate.
If you go on a blocking spree on all of your accounts and just follow the posters that boost you, it could turn your social media into a nice part of your routine as you mainly engage with others face-to-face or privately. In terms of commenting, if your curated Instagram is just following cute dogs and all you have to offer for a comment is “cute dog,” you might just enjoy the picture and then move on with your day rather than join in the noise. These non-commenters aren’t in the show and they’re fine with it.
5. Less motivated by social validation
The last trait that Brown showcases is that social media users who browse without posting tend to be independent from external validation, at least online. Social media is built to grow through feedback loops such as awarding likes, shares, and reposts of your content along with notifications letting you know that a new person follows you or wants to connect. This can lead many people to connect their activity on social media with their sense of self worth, especially with adolescents who are still figuring out their place in the world and have still-developing brains.
Engaging in social media via likes, shares, comments, and posts rewards our brains by having them release dopamine, which makes us feel good and can easily become addictive. For whatever reason, non-commenters don’t rely on social media as a means to gauge their social capital or self worth. This doesn’t make them better than those who do. While some non-commenters could have healthier ways to boost their self worth or release dopamine into their systems, many get that validation from equally unhealthy sources offline. That said, many non-commenters’ silence could be a display of independence and self confidence.
Whether you frequently comment online or don’t, it’s good to understand why you do or don’t. Analyzing your habits can help you determine whether your online engagement is healthy, or needs to be tweaked. With that information, you can then create a healthy social media experience that works for you.